5 Things People In Relationship Know About Sex

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Every one of us who is in a long-term relationship, remembers about the beginning when love was in the air, butterflies in the belly, racing heartbeat and of course constant sex. But with most couples, this heat burns down over the years.

The happiest long-term couples among us obviously know a thing or two about keeping up the excitement—if they didn’t, nobody would be monogamous.

We sussed out their sexy wisdom by talking to Amy Jo Goddard, a sexual empowerment coach and author of Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake Up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power, and Sexual Intelligence, who regularly works with couples in long-term relationships.

Here, the seven best tips we can learn from them.

Time brings a deeper connection

When that overwhelming can’t-keep-our-hands-off-each-other feeling fades, people often think something’s wrong, says Goddard.

“But you’re simply moving into a new phase of the relationship.” Rather than freak out, solid couples take this comfort and closeness as an opportunity to explore a deeper level of intimacy that isn’t possible when you first get together, she explains. In other words, while all-new relationships can be fun and passionate, the best is yet to come.

Unselfconscious sex is better sex

After you’ve been together for a while, your partner has learned all your weird quirks, witnessed your ugly crying face and seen you naked more times than you can count.

And guess what? They still want to have sex with you. Which means you get to stop worrying and embrace your confidence.

It’s pretty common to fear judgment or rejection in the early stages of a relationship, explains Goddard.

But as your emotional connection deepens, so does the opportunity for honesty and exploration.

Fantasies are meant for sharing

Being open and direct with your long-term partner doesn’t just nix awkwardness; it uncovers a whole new realm of sexual satisfaction.

According to Goddard, it often takes couples a long time to be truly honest with each other when it comes to fantasies and fetishes. “They might be excited about something internally, but have a hard time sharing with their partner,” she says.

With time brings comfort and the confidence to tell your partner about the deep dark desires you’ve been hiding from the world—like your dream to have a threesome or get it on in a public place.

After all, your boo’s there to love you, not judge you.

Practice makes perfect

Sure, the sex may have felt exciting and magical when you were first hooking up.

But, reality check: it takes time to learn just what makes another person tick. “You get to know someone’s body in a very different way over time,” says Goddard.

So while a new beau may be able to get you going, only a long-term love can create a roadmap of every spot that makes your toes curl.

Communicate, communicate, communicate

With a new partner, it can be tough to explain exactly what you crave sexually. “I don’t know where the idea started that talking about sex ruins it,” says Goddard.

“Because it’s truly the number one thing that will open up a relationship in general, and especially with sex.”

In fact, according to the Archives of Sexual Behavior study about long-term relationships, communication was one factor that had a positive influence on sexual satisfaction with the couples.

Learning to discuss your desires is anything but unsexy, explains Goddard, and having an honest conversation about what’s working and what could use some improvement is totally empowering—and leads to even better sex.

Conclusion: Get to know your partner, don’t be afraid of trying something new, communicate often that will keep your relationship strong.


References: amyjogoddard.com  health.com